The Grief Experience

When people lose someone very close to them, or with whom they have shared a lifetime, it is often hard to believe that it really has happened. There is a wide range of intense feelings that follow. The sadness can be overwhelming; people are often surprised when they feel angry or guilty, but these emotions are common. There may be unpleasant physical symptoms which may need to be checked, but which will probably be normal for the time. In the early weeks there are often concentration problems and confusion. People may feel anxious and fearful for a time. Initially there are often many people around who can offer support, but as they disperse and get back to their busy lives there may be a long time of lonliness and gradual readjustment when it is better not to make hasty decisions. It is very important that the grieving person needs someone with whom to share their memories and yearning. One can achieve equilibrium with the right support. There are bereavement support groups which exist to help grieving people. Further information on support can be found on the website or by your Veterans' Affair contact officer or your local ex service group. Don't hesitate to get the right support for you.

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Peter J Jackson, Funeral Directors